Sunday, March 22, 2015

Last week I posted a free template that you could easily download, write an appreciation on, and send to someone in your life who might need a boost or who'd appreciate some unexpected love.

It was fun to create the printable and I hoped that folks would actually try it out to see how good it feels to surprise someone that way.

I know from my own life that simply taking five or ten minutes to do something like this for someone can add a big ole sparkle to my whole day.

But guess what?

This week I got surprised.

One wonderful reader, (Pam, that's YOU!), downloaded the template, printed it out, and wrote an appreciation for me on it. She sent it off, just like that, without any explanation.

Well, when I got the envelope I was so excited. You know how we all rarely get "real mail" anymore?! Here was a handwritten envelope for me. The name on the return address looked familiar, but I couldn't place who she was.

I tore it open and when I saw what it was, I just started laughing with delight. What an absolutely wonderful surprise! The first thing I thought was, "it works! It really works." One sentence on a piece of paper literally made a huge difference in my day.

I ran out to show my son. I posted it near my computer where I would see it every day. I felt giddy every time I saw it.

Pam's thoughtful note is bringing me pinpricks of light every single time I see it.

THIS is what you can do for someone. It really takes just minutes. The effect could last a lifetime. I'm not kidding. I will keep Pam's note in a special book I have that I look through when I need a boost. I'll probably be 90 years old and still reading her note!

We all need this!

If you didn't do it last week, please try it now. All you've got to lose is about ten minutes, a single sheet of paper, and a stamp.

Don't wait. Say it now. I can tell you from my own experience (Thanks, Pam!) that it means the world to people on the receiving end of your thoughtfulness.




P.S. Remember how I said the name on the envelope looked familiar? I knew the sender had to be one of my readers and was happy I had her mailing address so I could write and tell her how much her note meant to me.

Then today, on a whim, I decided to follow-up with folks from my 50-50-50 Kindness Project. For months I'd wanted to thank everyone for helping make my birthday so amazing. Guess who was the first person on my list for the 50-50-50 Project? Pam! I'd sent a letter to a family member of hers who was going through a difficult time. So now the boost has come full circle back to me. I love that!

P.P.S. Here's the link for the free printable. Do it now. {Why wait?}












Sunday, March 08, 2015

I've been hearing from a lot of readers who resonate with my recent conversations on being blue. (If you missed the audio I created, you can listen to it here.)

One person who wrote to me said, "I've noticed for myself how life-saving it can be to receive messages of love and gratitude. Lately I have been depressed for a variety of reasons. And the outpouring of love on my birthday made me realize how much I need these kinds of authentic connections."

Yes, yes, yes. It is so true that we need authentic connection all the time. But especially when we're feeling down, blue, or downright depressed.

I heard a speaker the other night who underscored the importance of human connection to lift our spirits. It seems so obvious, right? But there's also even scientific evidence that we are creatures who need to connect. It's in our genes. (Yeah, I can feel that; can't you? We're social beings.)

For a long time, one of my own depression-busters has been to send cards or letters to people I love when I am feeling separate and alone. Usually there is someone in my life who is going through something difficult. I just scan my mind for who might need a little boost and then I send them an audio note or I mail them a greeting card.

These connections don't take a lot of time. In fact, I keep a stack of stamped greeting cards around so I have them handy. All I have to do is address them and write a few caring lines inside.

This is an instant pick-me-up for me. And the icing on the cake is that it hopefully makes someone else feel really loved and appreciated.

Is there someone in your life who needs a boost? Just close your eyes for a minute and let your intuition drop in the name or face of one person who might be lost, down, or grieving.

Could you spend just one minute thinking of something you love about this person, jotting it down, and sending it to them?

Listen, to make it really easy, I've created this printable for you. It's free and there's no need to do anything to get it but click and download.

Then just print it on your home printer — black/white or color ... card stock or regular ole paper— and cut the sheet in half. Save one boost card for another time and fill the other one out. Pop it in an envelope and send it off.

Don't worry about how it printed or whether you folded it or if you used the right color pen. None of that matters. It truly is the thought that counts. (I tell my son there is a reason things become cliché. Usually they are true!)


Do it.

Why wouldn't you?

I promise you this: you will feel really good inside. And whoever the recipient of this snail mail love is will also feel really good inside.

We all need more of this.

And it is simple.

Go. Now. Print, jot, send.






P.S. See how simple it is? You just write a couple sentences and send that LOVE out. You feel better. They feel better. (And it makes me happy, too! Triple action blues buster!) Download here.

P.P.S: Will you tell me how it goes? Leave a comment if you're on the blog. Or email me.

Tuesday, February 24, 2015

Hey everyone.

I really appreciate the feedback from folks who listened to last week's audio, "When you're blue."

It was great to hear from so many of you that it touched something in you and made you feel less alone.

Along those same lines, if you haven't yet watched the video on the home page of my website, I hope you'll do so now.

I share my journey from battling depression to creating a life of celebration. It'll help you understand why seeking and creating these "pinpricks of light" is so essential. (And why I talk about 'em so much!)

I love hearing from you. If you're visiting on the blog, leave a comment below. Or email me.

Seek celebration, even in the dark corners,



P.S. If you haven't had a chance to listen to last week's audio, listen now! I'll give a little spoiler to say that there's a coconut in there. I especially love what one reader, Danny, saw about this: "A coconut is hard on the outside, and it can appear that there's no way to open it. But if we recognize that with some effort we can open it, and make that effort, it's worth it because of the sweetness available to us once we do. In the same way, it's worth using whatever tools we have to break through the hard shell (iron wall) of suffering because the experience of the sweetness inside is such a great reward for doing so."

Danny is so right. It is worth the effort to use whatever tools we have to break through that iron wall of suffering. Even the smallest sliver of joy can make a difference.


P.P.S: If you like the video on my home page, I'd be so grateful if you will scroll down to the bottom of that web page and click on "share" so others can find out about the simple practice of pinpricks of light.

Wednesday, February 18, 2015

This week I've been talking to a number of people about depression and/or being blue.

I got inspired to create an audio about this — with a few things that have really helped me whenever I am stumbling in the dark and need a boost.

Listen in or download here.



Monday, February 09, 2015


I don't have anything against Hallmark. Or Valentine's Day.

I don't have anything against special occasions. Or celebration.

But what irks me is this: when we're fed ideas about these "picture perfect" lives that for most people simply don't exist. Our culture tends to lure us into specific ideas about what our lives should look like. Those shiny heart-shaped boxes of chocolates, the perfect red roses, and the even-shinier and rosier laughing faces of lovers at an expensive restaurant can be a set-up for deep disappointment, loneliness, and regret.

If you've got that Hallmark card kinda life, great!  I'd almost say there's no need to read on. But that's not true. Because even if you do have a life that looks like that, I dare risk it to say, that there's still something much better waiting for you this Valentine's Day. And it doesn't come in a box — heart-shaped or otherwise.

And if you don't have that Hallmark kinda life, join the crowd. Most of us don't have lives that look like catalogues and commercials. But you know what? Even if our lives don't look like that, they can feel like we've always imagined.

What if Valentine's Day weren't about jewelry and chocolate and hearts and lovers? What if, *gasp*, it were simply about love?

What if we chose to make it about love? Of all shapes and sizes.

What if each of us set out on our own small personal mission to create a few pinpricks of light for people in our lives this Valentine's Day? Sure, one of those people can be someone we romantically love. But what if we included our family, our co-workers, and people we never met?


Here are a few ideas:

Create some paper bag love at your house or office for Valentine's Day:
These mailbags o' love are great for love of all shapes and sizes. Fill 'em with sweet treats or sweet notes.

* Purchase some colorful bags. (Try your local dollar store or make 'em out of brown paper lunch bags.)

* Find a central location in your home or office to leave the bags visible.

* Label the bags so that everyone has one.

* Provide blank paper, note cards, or stationery near the bags.

* Explain to everyone that these bags are for people to leave secret or signed notes of things they're grateful for about the person, special memories, happy stories, inspiring quotes, etc.

* As the organizer, see if you can get the ball rolling by leaving at least one note or two for everyone. Model how it's done!

* Watch the magic happen.


Make a Love List. Make a Love List. Make a Love List.

If you've been following along with me for any length of time, you've heard me talk about Love Lists on countless occasions. Well, here I go again. And you know why? Because they work. Because they bring great joy to the Love List maker as well as the Love List receiver. Because they never get old. Because no one ever gets tired or hearing what makes them lovable. Because no matter how tired or depressed or anxiety-ridden we are, making and giving a Love List is a quick path to the light. Download your free printable here.


Send a note or letter to someone who is lonely, depressed, or grieving.

Don't wait. Do it now. Think about someone in your life who may need an extra boost. And simply write a few lines on a handmade greeting card, printed photo, or notecard and let them know that you are thinking of them with love. Real words. Authentic feelings. You don't have to say a lot for it to mean a lot. Also, watch how good you feel when you drop this in the mail. Sweet as chocolate.



Photo Credits:
Paper Bag Love: Bo Mackison; Other photos: Sherry Belul + Canstock Photo